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Akukho mntu uthanda ukuziva elilolo; ngokwenene yenye yeemvakalelo ezimbi emhlabeni kwaye inokukuhlisa ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Ukuba okwangoku uziva ulilolo, kuya kufuneka wazi ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na ukuba awuwedwa kwaye unabantu abakungqongileyo abakuthandayo nabakukhathaleleyo, ukuqala ngomntu ozibona esipilini ntsasa nganye.

Isizungu kukungaziphathi kakuhle xa uhlala wedwa, nakwilizwe elinabantu abaninzi. Yinto esidlula kuyo sonke, ngaxa lithile okanye enye, kwaye inokusenza siziva sodwa kwabanye abantu. Ubulolo kukutsala kwaye yenye yeemvakalelo ezandayo kwihlabathi. Inesiphumo sokuhamba phezu kwakho njengobumnyama xa wonke umntu ebonakala esekukhanyeni. Ihlala ibonwa njengemvakalelo embi ukuba nayo, kodwa kufuneka sivelane nenyaniso yokuba ukunqunyulwa kwihlabathi liphela kubangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu. Ukuba wena okanye abo bakungqongileyo bahlala rhoqo okanye benesizungu ngokungapheliyo, inokuba luphawu lwento ebaluleke ngakumbi, enje ngoxinzelelo.

Ubulolo bubonakala ngathi bubodwa, kodwa ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela. Ngokwenyani, ukuba wedwa akusoloko kuguqulelwa ekubeni lilolo kuba ukhululekile ukuba kude nabantu. Yahlukile kubantu abohlukeneyo kwaye ayinakuchazwa kwindalo yonke kuye wonke umntu. Abantu bakunzima ukuba baphile kwaye bonwabele ubomi phakathi kwabanye abantu, kwaye akukho mntu ukonwabelayo ukuba yedwa. Nokuba ungaziva ulilolo kwaye ungenanto okanye ungonwabanga kubudlelwane bakho nabanye, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube lilolo.

Nalu ukudityaniswa kweekowuti eziza kuthi ngethemba zikuncede uzive ulilolo kancinci.

Amanqaku amafutshane okuba nesithukuthezi

Xa sele uziva uphantsi, usenokungafuni ukufunda iikowuti ezinde, ezinde. Nokuba iikowuti ezinkulu zinengqiqo, kuhlala kulula ukuba namagama ambalwa wentuthuzelo ecaleni kwakho. Ezi zinokuthunyelwa njengesikhumbuzo esifutshane nesithandekayo komnye umntu ebomini bakho oziva elilolo kwaye unokubenza bazive bhetele malunga nemeko yabo elityelweyo. Amagama nje ambalwa ahlala ekwanele ukuguqula imeko yonke yosuku kuye nawuphi na umntu. Oku kunokuba yindlela yokuthuthuzela abanye okanye isiqu sakho.

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Zive ukhululekile ukusebenzisa oku kwinto oyibona rhoqo. Ungayiprinta kwaye uyincamathisele eludongeni, uyigcine kwidesika yakho okanye uyenze iphepha lodonga lweLaptop yakho okanye iselfowuni enjalo ukuba uyakukhunjuzwa ukuba ubomi abukho bodwa, kwaye oku akusosigxina. Ukuba uziva ngolu hlobo, kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuba omnye umntu kwenye indawo azive ngendlela efanayo, ukuba akukho kubi kunawe.

• Andizukuze ndohlukane nje ukuze kube lula ukujongana nayo.

Oku kubonisa ukuba ukuzitshintsha akuyi kukwenza uzive ulilolo, kuba ngoku unokuba nesithukuthezi - kodwa awusayi kuziqonda.

• Xa yonke into inesithukuthezi, ndingangumhlobo wam osenyongweni. -Conor Oberst

Ukuba ukwimeko apho ulilolo, yiba ngumlingane wakho kwaye ube nobubele kuwe. Zikhokele njengomhlobo.

• Ngamanye amaxesha, ndifuna nje ukunyamalala kwaye ndibone ukuba akukho mntu uza kundikhumbula.

Ukuba awukhuselekanga malunga nokuba ubalulekile na kwabo bakungqongileyo okanye hayi - unokuziva ngathi ukunyamalala kunokuba lolona khetho lufanelekileyo. Kodwa kuphela kuvavanyo lwexesha kunye nobunzima obunokwenza oku kucace kuwe-kunganyamalali.

• Ukuze ufumane ngokwakho, cinga ngokwakho. - USocrates

Ukuba unomdla wokuziqonda ngcono kwaye ungubani, ukuba nesizungu kunokuba yeyona ndlela yokwenza. Iya kukunika umbono olunge ngakumbi ukuba ungubani kanye kanye xa ukuko konke onako.

• Zimbini izinto ezinokubakho: nokuba sisedwa kwindalo iphela okanye asiyiyo. Zombini ezoyikeka ngokulinganayo.
• Khumbula: elona xesha ulilolo lelona xesha ufuna ukuba ube wedwa. Isigqebelo senkohlakalo sobomi.
• Umculo waba yindawo yam yokusabela. Ndingakhasa kwisithuba esiphakathi kwamanqaku kwaye ndijiye umva ndedwa.
• Ukuba wedwa kulungile kodwa udinga umntu oza kukuxelela ukuba wedwa kulungile.
• Ukuba unesizungu xa uwedwa, unabantu ababi.

Iingcaphuno ezichaza ubulolo

Ukuqonda iziphumo kunye nemvakalelo yokuba lilolo lokwenene kunzima kwabo bangaziva ngoluhlobo. Okanye nokuba umntu ukhe wanesithukuthezi, emva kokuphuma kuloo meko, kunokuba nzima ukucinga emva kwaye unxibelelane nomntu oziva elilolo ngoku. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iikowuti ezithetha malunga nokuba lilolo kwaye liyingozi kangakanani na kunokuba luncedo.

Ngamazwi abanye anokusinceda ukuba sibeke ezethu izenzo kunye neemvakalelo kwindlela entsha kwaye sisebenzise amandla okucinga kunye nenkcazo yokujonga ngaphakathi. Oku kungasetyenziselwa ukuzivavanya ngokwakho ukuba unesithukuthezi, ukuze wabelane nabantu obathandayo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo ngoku, okanye uxelele abo ebomini bakho ukuba bangamalolo ukuba uyayiqonda imizabalazo yabo.

• Isizungu luphawu lokuba uzifuna ngamandla. -Rupi Kaur

Ukuba lilolo kunokuthetha ukuba intloko yakho iyakuxelela ukuba kufuneka uzazi ukuba ungubani kwaye unxibelelane neemvakalelo zakho ukuze uzincede ube ngcono.

• Ubulolo bunyangeka ngokunxibelelana nawe. -Sven Schnieders

Ukoyisa isithukuthezi, okokuqala siqala ukudibana naso kwaye sihlala nathi. Ekupheleni kosuku, kufuneka sibekhona ngokwethu-size imvula okanye ukukhanya.

• Ubulolo yirhafu ekufuneka siyibhatalele ukucamagushela ubunzima beengqondo ezithile. -U-Alain de Botton

Ukuba nesizungu akuyona into embi njengoko kunokusityhala ukuba sikhule kwicala elifanelekileyo ngokukhawuleza. Siya kukhula ngokulula amandla omeleleyo engqondo kunye nezixhobo zokusihlangula kubo nabuphi na ubunzima obunokusifikela.

• Ubulolo asikokungabikho kwenkampani; isizungu kukungabi nanjongo. -Guillermo Maldonado

Ukungabikho kwenkampani akusoloko kuguqulela kwisizungu, kodwa ukungazi apho siya khona kunokuba khona. Isenokuthetha ukuba asiyiqondi into esinokuyenza ngathi okanye kwimeko esiyiyo ngoku.

Iingcaphuno malunga nokuba nesizungu ezidla ngokucatshulwa

Kuba ukuziva ulilolo kukweyonke indawo, kukho iikowuti ezithethwa ngabantu abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela malunga nale mvakalelo ilusizi. Kuyathuthuzela ukwazi ukuba abanye abantu bayayiqonda indlela oziva ngayo kwaye banako ukubeka ezo mvakalelo ngamagama ukuze uzichaze. Nawe ngokwakho, kunokuba nzima ukuyichaza indlela oziva ngayo, kodwa xa ufunda okanye uve ezinye iikowuti, zinokubetha kuwe, kwaye ube nakho ukuqonda ngcono iimvakalelo zakho kwimeko yangoku.

Oku kunokukunceda uzive ukuba nangona ulilolo, bakhona abanye abafana nawe. Banokubona kwaye bayiqonde imizabalazo yakho, kwaye ngexa ungabazi nokubazi ubunzima babo kunye noko baqhubekeke bakufezekisa kunokuba yinto enkulu ekhuthazayo kuye wonke umntu. Ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na, kuyanceda ukwazi ukuba emva kwesi sithuba sibuhlungu singapheliyo, kukho ubomi obugcwele ulonwabo kunye nethemba elikulindeleyo emacaleni elinokuba lelakho kungekudala.

• Ixesha lokuba nesithukuthezi kunye nokuba wedwa kuxa umbungu ufumana amaphiko. Khumbula ukuba kwixesha elizayo xa uziva ulilolo. -UMandy Hale

Olona phuhliso lubalulekileyo luhlala lusenzeka xa singamalolo. Oku kuyafana nokutshintsha komzimba kwebhabhathane xa liphuma kumbungu lisiya kwizinambuzane ezintle.

• Into ebaluleke kakhulu kwihlabathi kukwazi ukuba yeyakho. - UMichel de Montaigne

Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlala ngokwakho kubantu abasondeleyo kuwe, kunokuziva ngathi uwedwa kwilizwe lakho elincinci, ukuba kungabikho mntu unokungena, kwaye awunako nokushiya. Lo ngumthombo weemvakalelo ezininzi zodwa ezivela ebantwini abaninzi.

Ubunzima bokuba lilolo

Kungabonakala ngathi xa unesithukuthezi, kuya kufuneka ujongane nemizabalazo eliqela kwaye ulwe iimfazwe ezininzi ngaphakathi kwakho yonke imihla ekungekho mntu unokuzibona okanye avelane nazo. Oku kuyenza mandundu njengomntu ukulwa ezi ngcinga zibuhlungu. Ezi ngcaphuno ziya kukunika ukwamkelwa okukufaneleyo kwimizabalazo yakho kwaye yenze kubonakale ngathi awuwedwa kule nto. Umzabalazo wokwenene kukwazi ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu onale nto kwaye kubonakala ngathi wenza izinto ngokulula ngenkxaso abayifunayo ukuze benze umsebenzi omkhulu kwaye baphumelele. Kodwa nangona uzama kanzima, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka kuwe kuba uziva ulilolo.

• Ixesha oziva ulilolo lelona xesha ufuna ukuba ube wedwa. -UDouglas Coupland

Ukuba uziva ulilolo, kuya kufuneka uzivumele ube wedwa ngokwaneleyo ukuba uqale ukonwabela inkampani yakho. Abanye bathi luphawu lokufuna ukuzazi ngokwakho, neenqobo zakho zokuziphatha, imikhwa emibi, kunye nemikhwa. Iya kukunceda usebenze kwiinqobo zakho ezisemgangathweni kunye neminqweno kwaye uphinde uziqokelele kwicala ofuna ukukhula kulo.

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• Siziva sinetyala xa singasafuni ukunxulumana nabahlobo bakudala kunye noogxa bethu abangatshintshanga. Ixabiso, kunye nokumakisha, kokukhula. -Umjikelo weNavy

Ukuziva unetyala kunokuba sisizathu sokuziva ulilolo. Xa sigqitha ubudlelwane bethu obudala ngeendlela ezininzi kunokuba kungenjalo, sinokunyanzelwa ukuba siqhubeke. Oku kunokubangela ukuba sizive sibuhlungu kwaye sandise umsantsa ophakathi kwethu nabo basingqongileyo.

• Ngamanye amaxesha, ufuna ikhefu nje. Kwindawo entle. Yedwa. Ukufumanisa yonke into.

Ngaphandle kokuba uwedwa, ukuhlala uqhagamshelene nezinto ezingabonakaliyo kuluntu kunokukugcina ubambekile kwinyani kwaye kukwenze uzive ukhululekile kulusu lwakho.

• Sonke sinesizungu sento esingaziyo ukuba sinesithukuthezi ngayo. Yenye indlela yokuchaza uluvo olunomdla oluhamba luziva ngathi ulahlekile umntu esingazange sadibana naye? -UDavid Foster Wallace

Ngamanye amaxesha siziva sinesithukuthezi ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba kunjani ukungabi nesithukuthezi, okunokwenza ukuba kube nzima kuthi ukuzikhupha kolo luvo lwengqondo.

• Ukuziva ulilolo kukujoyina lonke uluntu ekwamkeleni inyani ebuhlungu yokuba ngandlel 'ithile sahlulwe ngokusisiseko omnye komnye, kungaze kuqondwe ngokupheleleyo.

Xa unesithukuthezi, uyavuma umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwakho nabanye, kwaye ngokufanayo nabo nabantu abaninzi. Akukho mntu uya kukuqonda ngokwenyani ngendlela onokuyenza ngayo ngenxa yokuba iimbono kunye neembono zahlukile kwaye ziziphumo zamava omntu ngamnye ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.

• Ndililolo. Kwaye ndinesithukuthezi ngandlela ithile enzulu, kwaye ngephanyazo lomzuzwana, ndiyabona ukuba lilolo kwaye indlela enzulu ngayo le mvakalelo. Kwaye kuyothusa ukothuka kum ukuba kube lilolo kuba kubonakala kuyintlekele. -Augusten Burroughs

Ubulolo bunokutshabalalisa nezona ngqondo zomeleleyo kuba, bodwa, nkqu namadoda akrelekrele angajika. Ikwenza ukuba uqwalasele kwakhona eyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho kwaye uvavanye ukhetho lwakho ngakumbi kunangaphambili

Iicatshulwa eziyinyani malunga nesizungu

Ukufumana iikowuti ezichaza eyona nto uziva ukuba kulula ukuyithetha kunokuba uyenzile. Amagama amnandi, izicengcelezo, kunye neetweets zentsholongwane azisoloko zibamba eyona nto iphambili kwiintlungu kunye nomvandedwa onokubangelwa sisizungu. Olu luvo lusizi kakhulu kwaye lubuhlungu, kwaye kuhlala kuluncedo ukuba neekowuti ezichanekileyo nezinyanisekileyo, nokuba azivakali njengezibongo njengazo ezinye. Oku kunokuba nokuhambelana ngcono neemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Amagama anokuba krwada kodwa aya kuthwala iimvakalelo zokwenene onazo ngaphakathi kwakho.

• Olovakalelo xa ungazi nokuba yintoni le uyivayo.

Ngamanye amaxesha unokuziva ngathi awuziqapheli ngokwakho okanye iimvakalelo zakho okanye nantoni na eyenzekayo entlokweni yakho.

• Ndifuna ukulala ndide ndizive ndibhetele.

Ukulala kunokuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubaleka nokuzifihla kwizinto eziyinyani zelizwe elijikeleze thina. Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabantu oluziva lulolo lukhankanya ukuba baya kuhlala ebhedini kwaye balale kunokuba basebenzisane nabanye abantu kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla.

• Unxibelelwano lwethu oluhlala luhleli lubambelele kunxibelelwano oluqhubekayo kumzamo wokuphepha ubulolo obuhleli nzulu esiboyikayo. - UMaria Popova

Kuba sonke siqhagamshelene ngokwamanani, ngeefowuni, ngemiyalezo, okanye nangokubhala kwimidiya yoluntu-siyalamba xa siziva sinesithukuthezi. Sizama ukwenza nantoni na ukunqanda ukuziva ulilolo kwaye siziva sahlukile kwabanye, yiyo loo nto uninzi lwethu lune-FOMO (uloyiko lokuphoswa).

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Usizi zihlala zihamba kunye nokuba lilolo njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kuba nakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba wedwa sekunzima, kodwa ukuba neemvakalelo ezingalunganga ngaphandle kokukwazi ukwabelana ngazo kubi kakhulu. Kungumzabalazo wokulawula iimvakalelo zakho uwedwa, ngaphandle komhlobo okanye usapho ecaleni kwakho. Ngokukodwa xa kukho ilizwi elincinci entlokweni yakho elithetha izinto ezilusizi kuwe, oku kunokukwenza uzive ukhathazekile kwaye uyinyanzele ingqondo yakho ngeengcinga ezingakhathaliyo kunye nezimvo malunga nawe kwaye unciphise ukuzithemba kwakho kwinqanaba elibi.

• Ngaba ukhe waqala nje ukukhala kuba ububambe zonke ezi mvakalelo kwaye uzenza ngathi wonwabile ngendlela ende kakhulu?

Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhala kunokuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuzikhulula kumthwalo weemvakalelo ohlala uthwala ngokungapheliyo kwaye kunokukunika ukuphepha kuxinzelelo nentlungu.

• Elona candelo libi lokugcina iinkumbulo ayisiyiyo intlungu. Kukuba lilolo kwako. Kufuneka kwabelwane ngeenkumbulo. -Lois Lowry

Ukuba neemvakalelo, iingcinga, kunye neenkumbulo ezingenakwabelwana ngazo kuba kungekho mntu ukujikelezileyo yeyona nto imbi kakhulu. Isenza sizive ngathi sivalelwe kunye neentshaba zethu ezimbi, kungekho ndlela yokubaleka le meko.

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Iingcaphuno ezihambelana nentliziyo ebuhlungu kunye nesizungu

Ngamanye amaxesha umntu esimthandayo ophula iintliziyo zethu kunokusenza siziva sodwa kwihlabathi. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba usandul 'ukuphuma kubudlelwane. Nokuba iphelile ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo, iimvakalelo kunye nemvakalelo yokuhlangana ihlala ihleli, kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuyilahla. Unokuzifumana uhlala ujonge intsika yenkxaso kunye nokuwa emva kokungakwazi ukuncika kuyo. Le yinyaniso emasikizi ekufuneka siyamkele sonke. Intlungu yentliziyo nayo ayisiyiyo imeko kanaphakade, kwaye iya kuphucuka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kuhlala kukho umntu wonke umntu, kwaye ude ufumane loo mntu, ukwenzakala akunakuphepheka.

• Andikwazi ukuyisusa intlungu yakho, kodwa ndingakunika imimangaliso emibini: uthando oluphuma ekuguqukeni kwabanye abantu, kunye nonxibelelwano esinalo kuye wonke umntu osemhlabeni. -Leo Babauta

Sinokulwa kuphela ukuba nesizungu ngobuhlobo. Kwaye ukuba iqabane ayingomnye umntu, kuya kufuneka ube nguwe. Kufuneka usoloko uzama ukuhlala uqhagamshelene nabo bakungqongileyo kwaye unike uthando nothando lwakho ngokukhululekileyo ngaphandle kokuthintela.

• Ndiyawa phambi kwamehlo akho, kodwa awundiboni.

Isizungu uziva ngathi uwedwa kangangokuba akukho mntu unokuyibona intlungu kunye nokuzabalaza kwakho, nokuba sele uphambi kwabo, uqhekeka.

• Wonke umntu ophilayo ukhe waziva ezi ntlungu, ukungabi nathemba, kunye nesizungu ngamanye amaxesha. Sonke siqhagamshelene ngale ntlungu kunye nomzabalazo ekwabelwana ngawo. -Leo Babauta

Ukuba ucinga ngayo, ngokuhlekisayo kukuba, nkqu nabantu abodwa abanxibelelene nabanye abantu abanesithukuthezi njengoko besabelana ngemvakalelo efanayo. Ngelixa le ayisiyonto inamandla yokwabelana, yinto ebuhlungu ngokwenene ukuba, ngaphandle kwento ocinga ukuba uhlala unxibelelana nabanye abantu.

• Elona xesha lilodwa ebomini bomntu kuxa bebukele ilizwe labo liphela liwohloka, kwaye konke abanokukwenza kukujonga nje.
• Elona candelo libi lokugcina iinkumbulo ayisiyiyo intlungu. Kukuba lilolo kwako. Kufuneka kwabelwane ngeenkumbulo.
• Sonke sihlangene kakhulu, kodwa sonke siyafa sisizungu.
• Ukufuna okungapheliyo komntu ngamnye kukwaphula isithukuthezi sakhe.
• Ubulolo yeyona ntlupheko iphambili.

Izicatshulwa zodwa zasebusuku

Ngexesha lasemini, kulula ukuba ugcine intloko yakho ihleli kwaye uqhubeke nokugqiba umsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe. Kodwa ebusuku, kuba nzima kakhulu. Kungenxa yokuba xa ilanga litshona, kwaye ugqibile ngazo zonke izinto zoluhlu lwezinto oza kuzenza, ushiyeke uwedwa, nokuba uyathanda okanye awuthandi. Oku kunokwenza ukuba imeko ibenzima kakhulu ukuyiginya. Ubusuku bunokuzisa iimvakalelo ezintle ukuba abahlobo bakho bonke banobudlelwane obunothando, kwaye uyabeva bethetha ngabantu ababathandayo kunye neencoko abanazo ebusuku. Oku kuyenza yonke imeko ibe mbi kakhulu kunesiqhelo kwaye kungabikho mntu wabelana naye ngale nto ayicaphukisayo.

• Ubulolo bongeza ubuhle ebomini. Ibeka ukutshisa okukhethekileyo ekutshoneni kwelanga kwaye yenza umoya wasebusuku unuke ngcono. -UHenry Rollins

Ubulolo ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo kunokuba buhle kwaye butshintshe ubomi. Iya kubeka izinto ezilula kumanqwanqwa kwaye ikuncede uxabise izinto ezingagungqiyo, ezinje ngendalo kunye nesiqhelo, ngaphezulu kakhulu kunokuba ubucinga ukuba ungaze ucinge ngazo.

• Yazi nokuba uziva ulilolo, awuwedwa. Mna, ndedwa, ndixhumeke kuwe kuba ndicinga ngawe, nonke. Ndidibene nawe kuba nam ndive ubunzima ngendlela efanayo. Siye sabelana ngentlungu, kwabiwa ukungabi nathemba, kunye nesizungu. -Leo Babauta

Wonke umntu udlule kwiimeko ezifanayo. Isenokungabikho kwimeko efanayo, isigaba sobomi, ubudala, okanye indawo-kodwa iphelele. Ukukhumbula oku kuya kuhlala kukunceda uzive uwedwa kweyona mihla iphantsi yeemvakalelo zakho.

• Ingxaki ayikho nyani ekubeni wedwa; lilolo; umntu unokuba nesizungu phakathi kwesihlwele, awucingi. -UChristine Feehan

Ukuba wedwa kulungile. Ikuvumela ukuba wazi ukuba emzimbeni awunayo inkampani. Kodwa ukuba ulilolo, nkqu nezona zitrato zixineneyo- apho wonke umntu ephithizela yingxolo, uya kuziva ngathi wohlwaywe ngokuhlala kunye kwihlabathi ongalibonanga.

• Uya kuhamba nam naphi na. Xa ndiphupha, usabelana ngobusuku bam bodwa.
• Iintsuku ezinqabileyo okanye ezinelanga, ubusuku obuzukileyo okanye obunesizungu, ndigcina imeko yombulelo.
• Ukuba ndinyanzelisa ukungabi nathemba, kuhlala kukho ingomso. Namhlanje ndisikelelekile.
• Kukho into malunga nobusuku bodwa kunye ne-lipstick yam ebusweni bakho.

Olunye uluvo lokuziva ulilolo

Zininzi iikowuti ezinkulu ezabelwana ngazo kweli nqaku. Ukuba umntu omnye uziva elilolo xa beshiyeke bodwa okanye bejamelene nolunye uhlobo lokuqaqanjelwa yintliziyo kunye nabantu ababathandayo emva koko banokuzibandakanya ngezi zicaphulo kwaye apha ngezantsi zezinye iikowuti ezingangeni kolu luhlu lungentla.

• Ubulolo abuqhelekanga.
• Umphefumlo omhle uhamba wedwa.
• Isizungu sinokukwenza ukuba ube ngumntu owomeleleyo.
• Abantu abandijikelezileyo abandilungelanga, kungoko ndindedwa kwisihlwele.
• Akukho nto inokukuzisela uxolo ngaphandle kwakho.
• Ubulolo asikokungabikho kwenkampani, ubulolo kukuswela injongo.
• Xa singekhe sime sodwa, oko kuthetha ukuba asixabisanga umhlobo ekuphela kwakhe esiya kuba naye ukususela ekuzalweni kuye ekufeni.
• Ukuba wedwa kulungile ngamanye amaxesha, njengoko kunganyanzelekanga ukuba uphendule mntu.

Ukuziva ulilolo kunokubonakala ngathi yimeko eza kuhlala ubomi bakho bonke, kodwa ayiyonyani leyo. Yinto ngokuqinisekileyo oya kuyifumana. Ngapha koko, inokukunika amandla kunangaphambili kwaye ikunike amandla engqondo okufikelela izinto ezinkulu ebomini. Iya kukufundisa ukuba ube wedwa, nokuba awunabo abantu abaninzi abakungqongileyo, kwaye ikubonise ukuba kukho indlela apho kukho intando. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ukufikelela kumaxesha anzima kwenza ukuba amaxesha amnandi azive engcono. Kumava okuphumla ukuphuma kuwo, kodwa okoko ungaphakathi, unokuziva umnyama kakhulu kwaye udandathekile.

Ngamaxesha anjalo kungakuhle ukuba ujonge imifanekiso yakudala, uthethe nabahlobo kunye nosapho. Unokwenza neminye imisebenzi njengokuzinakekela, ukuthatha iklasi yokudanisa / yokuzivocavoca, ukuhambahamba, okanye ukuhlakulela umkhwa wokufunda owawuhlala ufuna. Sukela amaphupha akho amnyama kuba ukuba wedwa akusoloko kusisigxina. Kodwa xa usuka kwenye indawo uye kwenye, ungadibana nabantu abatsha kwaye wenze unxibelelwano olutsha obungacingi ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukuqala ngalo. Kuhlala kusothusa indlela amandla enkampani elungileyo anokugxotha ngayo nayiphi na imeko yokungaziva oziva. Ngabahlobo abalungileyo abenza ukuba ubomi bethu bebonke bulungile ukuba babe yinxalenye.

Ke bambelela kwithemba kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kuhlala kukho ukukhanya esiphelweni kwetonela elikulindeleyo!